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Examples of Non-Physical Ways to Exert Power and Control
To view the various examples of non-physical ways abusers exert power and control, please select one of the links below:
Emotional Abuse
- Name calling
- Sexual put-downs
- Making her think she is crazy
- Putting her down in front of family and friends
- Bragging about other relationships, phoning them from their house and/or bringing them there
- Ignoring her, withdrawing attention.
Intimidation
- Putting fear in her by using looks, actions, loud voices, gestures, body positioning, smashing or destroying property, hurting pets, etc.
Isolation
- Keeps her from outside communications with her family and friends
- Limits her phone calls
- Keeps her from doing activities she likes
- Invades her privacy or limits personal space
Threats
- Threatens to kill her
- Threatens to have someone else hurt her
- Threatens to hurt or take the children
- Threatens to throw her out/make her homeless
- Threatens to destroy property that is meaningful to her
- Threatens to report her to welfare, DCFS, immigration, etc.
- Threatens to commit suicide
- Threatens to have her watched all the time
- Threatens that if he doesn't have her, no one else will
- Threatens to kill her pet
Economic Abuse
- Keeping her from getting or keeping a job
- Giving her an allowance/controlling all finances
- Making her ask for money
- Taking her money
- Taking money for himself and withholding money for family needs
Using Children
- Making her feel guilty about the children
- Constantly criticizing her parenting skills
- Using the children to give messages
- Misusing visitation to harass her
- Abducting the children
- Telling the children bad things about her
Using Male Privilege
- Treating her like a servant
- Acting like the "King of the Castle"
- Making all the big decisions
- Has a know-it-all attitude
- Thinks he has superior attitude
- Control her property
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