Peace Relationship vs. Abusive Relationship

Below are some characteristics that identify a peace relationship vs. a potentially abusive relationship:

Peace Relationship	Abusive Relationship
Win-Win	Win-Lose
Friend	Enemy
Choice	Control
"I" Statements	"You" Statements
Specifics	Generalization
Alternatives	Ultimatums
Cooperation	Competition
Equality	Privilege
Care-Confrontation	Confrontation
Complement (Focus on Positive)	Criticize (Focus on Negative)
Discuss	Argue
Honesty (Truth)	Deception (Mind Games, Lies)
Situation	Problem
Responsibility	Blame
Acceptance	Guilt, Shame
Bridges	Walls
"Do unto others as they would like to be done to."	"Do unto others before they do unto me."
Freedom	Suppression
Love	Hate

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